如何應對無禮的舉動 How to Deal with Rude Behavior
#078 1996/12/5 印度 喀若拉
有人對你無禮時，你會怎樣呢？
l 心煩意亂
l 粗魯地反擊
l 感覺受挫
l 逃走、並避免遇上對方或相同情況
l 責備對方
l 向對方說教
然而用這些方法都無法使你變得強壯。那麼你還有什麼選擇呢？你可以就以下觀點來看待他人的無禮舉動。
u 那顯示他們罪行的強度
u 那顯示他們的壓力及感覺的遲鈍
u 那投射出這人的教養
u 那顯示其行為的模式
u 那表示缺乏觀照本身的心理與感覺
u 那告訴你該避免的舉止
u 那是你欣然接受的機會，並消化掉這無禮的舉動
u 那增強你心智的能力
u 那使你本然、無條件的愛流露出來
下次當有人對你無禮時，確定你並不會因此懊惱。只要報以哈哈大笑。如果你能消化掉這無禮舉動，就沒有任何事情能動搖你了。
078 HOW TO DEAL WITH RUDE BEHAVIOR
Weekly Knowledge #78 Thiruvananthapuram, Kerala 05 Dec 1996 India
What do you do when someone behaves very rudely to you?
1. Get upset
2. React rudely back
3. Get frustrated
4. Run-away from and avoid the person or the situation
5. Blame the person
6. Preach to the person
None of these will in any way strengthen you.
Then what are the options? See rude behavior in this light:
1. It indicates the intensity of their commitment
2. It indicates the amount of stress and insensitivity
3. It projects the up-bringing of the person
4. It indicates a behavioral pattern
5. It shows lack of knowledge
6. It shows lack of observation of one's own mind and its sensations
7. It shows you behavior to avoid
8. It is an opportunity for you to welcome and absorb the rudeness
9. It strengthens your mind
10. It unconditions the love that you are
The next time when someone is rude to you, make sure you don't get upset. Just give back a broad smile.
If you can digest the rudeness, nothing whatsoever can shake you.
NEWS FLASH
Guruji came from Delhi for an overnight stay at the Ashram and left the next morning to Kerala. Organizers in Delhi as well as in Cochin (Trivandrum and Trichur) had experienced very clearly the non-doership of the big event. Everything fell in its space at the right moment as always. Enthusiastic devotees in Cochin renovated their homes. After Cochin, Guruji rushed to the colorful Trichur (In Trichur as usual there was chaos and asana-snatch). Excellent team work and elaborate arrangements were appreciated by thousands who came to the Satsang. The Kerala-style decorated elephants with umbrellas and the ballkas dressed in traditional attire carrying lights and flowers were a spectacular welcome. Many people shared their amazing healing experiences. Then the whole troop moved to Trivandrum, the town of infinity. The king of Kerala received Guruji at the Senate Hall with a packed audience of 4000 people. Colorful umbrellas, elephants, the traditional horns and drums and the Vedic chanting filled the air. People were enraptured for a three and a half hour program. The next morning newspapers were filled with the news of the Art of Living Satsang.
Jai Guru Dev
(Compiled by Murali and Sreeranjini)
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